The recurring theme for 2016 has been “love yourself”. It’s two very simple words and yet the majority of us lack the skill-set needed to complete the task. LOVE YOURSELF.  Love is not only a noun. LOVE IS A VERB. IT IS AN ACTION. As a verb it can be defined as: like very much; find pleasure in.  That the task before us. We need to learn and perpetuate the action of liking ourselves and finding pleasure in our own company. It is by far the most powerful thing we can ever do for our souls.  It is by far the kindness action we can take to heal. Yet, life hardens us to the point that we forget this simple task. This year, put it on your to-do-list, create the habit, indulge… #LOVEYOSELF.

Dark Girls: the documentary

I processed so much from this documentary.  Not only was it well done,  it covered the pathology from colonization… Eloquently.  As a dark girl,  I never learned of colorism until I hit high school.  Colorism was tied into class is.  It was overwhelming.  Yet I had a great sense of self. 

… And that was a common theme… Sense of self.  Then it became apparent that this pathology of colorism continues  or terminates with our parents.

When you are loved,  when you are adored when your parents instill a giant sense of self,  you have an armour of your soul and such ignorance cannot penetrate that great love of self. 

The proliferation of self denigration won’t stop,  society,  institutionalize racism,  privilege,  ignorance and denial will keep the “color wheel” turning. 

However with great parenting and authentic love,  there will be a generation of women will not buy into the cancer of colorism.

Says @efabulous1